Connection is why we are here. IT gives value and meaning to our lives. Brene Brown – The Power of Vulnerability.
Shame and fear keep us from being connected.
Shame is easily understood as the fear of disconnection. Is there something about me that if other people know it or see it, that I won’t be worthy of connection. We all have this. What underpins this is excruciating vulnerability. This idea that for connection to take place, we have to allow ourselves to be seen. Really seen.
Worthiness – some folks have a strong sense of love and belonging – others really struggle for this, and are often wondering if they are good enough. The only variable is the people who have this strong sense of love and belonging Believe they are worthy of it.
So what do these people have – Courage to be imperfect. Compassion to be kind to themselves first, and then others. They are willing to let go of who they think they should be and just be who they are. Absolutely critical for true connection. They fully embraced vulnerability. They believe what makes them vulnerable makes them beautiful. The willingness to invest in a relationship that may or may not work out.
Why do we struggle so much with Vulnerability? We numb it….or try to. We cannot selectively numb the negative emotions without numbing the positive emotions.
We pretend what we do doesn’t affect anyone else…..when it does.
Let ourselves be seen. Deeply seen. Love with our whole hearts. Practice gratitude and joy. Believe that we are enough.