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“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness, and affection.
Love is not something we give or get; it’s something that we nurture and grow – a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them. We can only love others as much as we love ourselves.” Brene Brown, Researcher & Story Teller, See more here.
Connection is why we are here. IT gives value and meaning to our lives. Brene Brown – The Power of Vulnerability.
Shame and fear keep us from being connected.
Shame is easily understood as the fear of disconnection. Is there something about me that if other people know it or see it, that I won’t be worthy of connection. We all have this. What underpins this is excruciating vulnerability. This idea that for connection to take place, we have to allow ourselves to be seen. Really seen.
Worthiness – some folks have a strong sense of love and belonging – others really struggle for this, and are often wondering if they are good enough. The only variable is the people who have this strong sense of love and belonging Believe they are worthy of it.
So what do these people have – Courage to be imperfect. Compassion to be kind to themselves first, and then others. They are willing to let go of who they think they should be and just be who they are. Absolutely critical for true connection. They fully embraced vulnerability. They believe what makes them vulnerable makes them beautiful. The willingness to invest in a relationship that may or may not work out.
Why do we struggle so much with Vulnerability? We numb it….or try to. We cannot selectively numb the negative emotions without numbing the positive emotions.
We pretend what we do doesn’t affect anyone else…..when it does.
Let ourselves be seen. Deeply seen. Love with our whole hearts. Practice gratitude and joy. Believe that we are enough.
“Self-compassion provides an island of calm, a refuge from the stormy seas of endless positive and negative self-judgment, so that we can finally stop asking, “Am I as good as they are? Am I good enough?” By tapping into our inner wellsprings of kindness, acknowledging the shared nature of our imperfect human condition, we can start to feel more secure, accepted, and alive.
It does take work to break the self-criticizing habits of a lifetime, but at the end of the day, you are only being asked to relax, allow life to be as it is, and open your heart to yourself. It’s easier than you might think, and it could change your life.” See Full Article: Why Self-Compassion Trumps Self-Esteem.
On my morning walk, there was an incredible automobile accident that happened right in front of me. It was loud, two autos were completely inoperable, and several folks were injured. No one died, but certainly their day is different… and for one of the drivers, their whole world is going to be turned upside down for many months to come, as they rehabilitate and heal.
What’s interesting is that I didn’t even see it take place. I was observing a runner off in the distance, coming down a hill, across the street from me. While I was right there, there’d be no way for me to offer a police report, as I didn’t see anything leading up to the accident. My focus and attention and awareness was way across the street, up the hill.
This accident brought several things to mind. First, our ability to broaden out our awareness and our ability to get narrowly focused and ponder where we are with our focus – in our lives, in situations at work, with loved ones, etc. Am I narrowly focused, can I broaden, and should I? Or vice versus. Am I too broadly focused, and should I narrow… and would a narrowing allow me to see a situation more clearly?
This accident also reminded me that our life situation IS what it IS…. in that moment – but it can change at any time. In an instant – for the better or worse – but that too just IS what it IS! I find being flexible to change serves me well, because change is inevitable. I’m grateful for what is smooth, and try not to stress about things that seem to be rough.
I’ve been writing a lot about yoga benefits lately because I seek to complete all the links on my Yoga Benefits page! Hang in there with me, more blogs about inner healing, personal transformation, passion, and focus coming your way soon!
Share your inner light – Amy
“You cannot give to anybody in this world what you do not have. And therefore you must concentrate on getting. You must become the most beautiful, sensitive, wondrous, magical, unique, fantastic person in the world to be able to have all these things in order to give them away and share them. Think about it. If I don’t have wisdom I can only teach my ignorance. If I don’t have joy, I can only teach despair. If I don’t have freedom I can only put you in cages. But everything that I have I can give away. That’s the only reason for having it. But I’ve got to have it first. So I dedicate myself to becoming the best ME I can be.” – Leo Buscaglia